If you and your partner or spouse are from different cultures, it is inevitable that you will face many misunderstandings and frustrations.
The most critical cultural differences have to do with ideas, concepts, values, and assumptions about life.
Each culture has its own unique assumptions and understanding about relationships and social expectations.
In many ways, cultures can have secrets.
Since the culture is accepted and shared within the cultural group as “normal” or “natural”, people didn’t see a reason to discuss “the rules and norms”.
Often people don’t have skills and vocabulary to confront cross-cultural differences.
People from different cultures can speak to their partners in way that they believe is appropriate from their cultural perspectives, yet find that their words are not heard as intended.
They often are not able to speak to each other about the differences and misunderstandings , and when they do not speak, their cultures fill in the blanks.
People become easily frustrated with each other and make negative assumption about the others intentions.
A major goal of the therapist is to help people to develop skills and vocabularies to help them to understand each other better and to express themselves more clearly.