A common theme for intercultural relationships is the discrepancy of identity status, that creates a distance between partners. This can stay invisible to the partner who lives within his cultural group and sees each situation applying his/her cultural code.
“ I feel that I don’t really have a place … The family treats me as a guest… and I didn’t speak the language anyway. I feel often misunderstood by my husband and my in-laws, isolated from my family of origin, and my husband would say that everything was just “too complicated” to explain. [Maria]
When people decide to get married, the issues emerge fast.
”I feel like we were thrown in the middle of the ocean on a small boat without any navigating tools” ( Mishell).
” I wish I spent more time with his family before marriage to learn about his background. I would have more understanding about his expectation, values” (Paula).
Every relationships have challenging times that can be seen as learning process to create a stronger bonds between the partners. The most important things are your love, patience, and desire to learn how to make your relationship better.