A common theme for intercultural relationships is the discrepancy of identity status, that creates a distance between partners. This can stay invisible to the partner who lives within his cultural group and sees each situation applying his/her cultural code.
“ I feel that I don’t really have a place … The family treats me as a guest… and I didn’t speak the language anyway. I feel often misunderstood by my husband and my in-laws, isolated from my family of origin, and my husband would say that everything was just “too complicated” to explain. [Maria]
When people decide to get married, the issues emerge fast.
”I feel like we were thrown in the middle of the ocean on a small boat without any navigating tools” ( Mishell).
” I wish I spent more time with his family before marriage to learn about his background. I would have more understanding about his expectation, values” (Paula).
Every relationships have challenging times that can be seen as learning process to create a stronger bonds between the partners. The most important things are your love, patience, and desire to learn how to make your relationship better.
Very nicely put. You hit the nail right on the head.
Thank you for your kind words!
Indeed. We are humans and we all crave relationship with others. And every relationship require time and effort to cultivate and build. There’s sacrifice we need to make for each other before we reap the harvest from those relationships. Thanks for this great post!
Thank you for you comment, Rex. Indeed, love takes hard work, but the effort and sacrifice we put into connecting and working on our love is worth it.
I think this a very interesting topic, and great insight that you have. Thanks for sharing.
Alice, Thank you for your comment. I glad that you found some useful information on my site!
You are welcome, Alice. Thank you for your input.All the best.
I think that you have great insight into such a specific area of relationships.
Thank you for reading!
I understand how one feels about this subject. I think everyone has that feeling of being an outsider depending on the situation during any sort of disagreement especially when there are more than two people involved.
Sometimes we just have to learn about ourselves and about people we love to understand our emotions…