There are a lot of bumps on the road of marriage.
Leo Tolstoy opened his novel Anna Karenina with the phrase that became the famous marriage quote:
“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
The most fairy tales end, “and they lived happily ever after”.
Unlike what happens in fairy tales, real-life marriages have a lot of bumps on the way to happiness. Couples need to develop, evolve, adjust, and to learn.
Many of them failed after being “unhappy in their own way” for some shorter or longer period.
In fact, according to Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., Director of The Couples Institute,
the three top three reasons for failure in marriages are:
1. The couple failed to learn from experience
2. The couple failed to adjust to circumstances
3. The couple failed to anticipate future problems
If you feel that your marriage becomes troubled, look for couples therapy counseling or try Marriage advice books to navigate your happy marriage road.